it is your responsibility to make sure the other person in your relationship knows your expectations.
so many hurts and frustrations are because our expectations are not met.
“Frustration is a function of our expectations, and our expectations are often a reflection of the social mirror rather than our own values and priorities.”
~ Stephen Covey
do you know what your expectations are? do you share your expectations?
tell your expectations to the other in your relationship. it is loving yourself and loving the other person (or part of the relationship) to know and share your expectations.
sharing your expectations is vulnerable, it is showing and building trust, it is letting the other person know how much the relationship means to you. sharing expectations shows that you value the relationship and its growth.
what expectations do you have? what expectations do you need to share?
are you expecting what you want? or are you expecting an old result from past experiences or unfulfilled wants? what are some of your natural thinking expectations you have from learned thinking habits?
it takes hard work
it takes too much time
it takes too much money
it’s only for other people, not for me
it comes with getting older
these are your paradigms, thoughts and actions that you don’t think about and just do or think, because they are part of your habitual thinking.
I am financially comfortable; my family and I have what we need, we enjoy activities, we enjoy vacations every year, I have some debts I would like to have been able to pay in total rather than monthly, we have just enough money or the right amount of money comes to us right when we need it, to get the things we judge to be most important and what we need the most.
but, I want to be financially free. I want my family and I to enjoy what we want, when we want it, I don’t want to have to plan to save because I don’t have the money for matching dressers in a bedroom, a new computer with more speed, a vacation to some place new, or attending seminars of my favorite mentors.
these are all things that we do now, but they require planning and sacrificing in other areas for us to do the thing we choose.
it’s because I’m not allowing. I have old thought habits that are guiding my expectations, not the thoughts of expecting enjoying my new desires.
these old thought habits are coming from my experiences growing up and thought habits passed to me from the people I was surrounded by growing up.
awareness to old thought habits is going to allow for the change and replacing the old thought habits with the new expectation thoughts of what you really want to experience.
to get your desired expectation, you need to change or replace your paradigm with a new one. affirmations are good to use for giving your mind your desired expectation to think about. visualizing your desired expectation and connecting to it emotionally is good to get your mind thinking about your desired expectation.
I am grateful for challenges in my life. I know that challenges are growth, that when I have challenges in my life I am becoming more, becoming better and/or getting ready for quantum growth and transformation.
When I’m in the middle of a challenge I’m not always able to be aware of the growth, or aware that I am getting better from the experience.
I can be overwhelmed, anxious, stressed, worried about a challenge in my life and when I am feeling any negative emotions I’m not as easily able to create what it is that I want.
I find that when I’m feeling the negative emotions I’m usually expecting a result that I don’t want, I’m thinking of a negative outcome rather than the positive outcome that I truly want. Sometimes it’s because I’m getting caught up in what the challenge is and not allowing myself to connect to the whole of life. Sometimes it’s because of an old paradigm that I still have. Sometimes it’s because I’ve gotten comfortable in an area of my life and haven’t thought about what it is that I actually want. Sometimes it’s because I’m in an area of my life that is part of my journey that I didn’t know I would experience and so I haven’t thought about what it is that I want.
My thoughts then are expecting negative, expecting what I don’t want. I am so happy and grateful when I am able to realize that I’m expecting something that I don’t want, because then I can change my thoughts and start expecting something that I do want.
It’s not always an easy shift depending on what’s causing the negative expectation, but being aware and being able to start changing my thoughts to what I do want to expect is how I like to live.
What are you expecting? Are you expecting negative or positive? Are you expecting what you truly want? If you aren’t, change your thoughts to expect what you do want!
What is it that I expect? I expect to keep my goals in front of me more and more with positive thinking and choosing positive action. I expect to write weekly. I expect I will be more aware of my creating what I want, playing and experiencing life. I expect to be joyful and grateful, smiling and high energy. I expect to be living more in present moment awareness.
I am judging myself on what I am and what I am not getting done, good or bad, it just is. (Note to self, remember that, it just is!) I do want to be aware of where I am and where I want to go. I am busy and close to overwhelm many times. There are so many hours in a day, I can’t do all that I want to do right now. Take a breathe and focus on the now moment, let go of the judging, and do what is most important to me. What is my ‘now’ priority?
It is a challenge to do it all right now, sometimes I feel that I can’t do it all, I can’t have it all… that is doubt, I know I can! I know I will! It takes determination and persistence! Right now my balance is off (which it always is because I am constantly changing and growing). Because of my ever upward spiraling growth I will always be wanting to become more, do more and experience more. And that I am grateful for!
I want to be the best mom to my amazing kids and be involved in their activities and volunteering. I want to be a difference maker to others and empower them to live their truths. I want freedom to enjoy the abundance that is all around.
My kids are a priority to me. My wellbeing is a priority to me. My personal growth is a priority to me. Being a difference make is a priority to me. Financial security/independence/freedom is a priority to me.
My emphasis should be in the present moment! Enjoying the journey! Being grateful for what I have and for what I am creating! Keeping my goals before me, taking the best action, choosing positive. Not judging what I don’t get done and crossed off my to-do list. That is how I want to live! Enjoying the journey and expanding! Being who I want to be, doing what I want to do, and experiencing what I want to experience.
I want to create that! I want to let go having it ALL now, which will never happen because I am an expanding being and as I get what I want, what I want expands and grows. I want to allow joy, serenity, freedom, abundance, and gratitude! I want to enjoy life fully! I want to enjoy the journey! I do not want to get stuck and caught up in the goal and judging what I did and didn’t do, losing focus of all that is. It is a balance of big picture and little picture, vision focus and small goal actions focus. Enjoy the journey.
I am expecting to live life fully! I am expecting to live in present moment awareness and enjoy the journey! I am expecting BIG creation! I expect it, no limits! I am part of an unlimited abundant Universe! And so it is!