thinking about love and what i want. thinking about what i’ve learned about love is giving and not worrying about getting. love is about the act of loving without expecting anything in return.
what does that look like?
how does that fit in with all that i want to experience and share in relationships?
a desire for a relationship, a choice to be in a relationship, then loving…
is that all there is to love?
is there expectation in choice? or you love yourself first, which would be in the choices you make. positive choices, choices for what you desire and what’s most important to you. the choice, it is two in one to love without expectation. choose to love without expectation. and choose to be in a relationship. and keep choosing, keep choosing to love without expectation and keeping choosing the relationships you want.
then sharing and experiencing love in a relationship. and this part is the act of love without expectation. sharing and experiencing life together in a relationship that you want. don’t expect life and love to come from the relationship, share and experience life and love in the relationship.
if you love yourself first in choosing what you desire and what’s most important to you, then when loving another you will be getting what you want. in the ups and downs and ebbs and flows of life and experiences, you will be sharing and experiencing in relationship. loving yourself is giving to yourself, loving yourself is giving to relationship and loving the other, giving to relationship and loving the other is loving yourself.
i choose my relationships. i give to my relationships and love the other. i am happy and grateful for my relationships! now… now, i am going to practice loving without expectation.
do you have a burning desire to live your truth? to live your dreams and desires?
dreams and desires fulfill passions. passions fulfill purpose.
“The purpose of life is to be happy.” ~Dalai Lama
passion is having a burning desire to experience or to have something. there are many things that i want and many things that i want to experience. they don’t all have the same level of desire. and my desire for a thing or an experience changes as well.
what keeps passion and desire for the wanted thing or experience high?
thinking about the desired thing and wanted experience and connecting to how you want to feel having experienced it keeps passion and desire high.
it is normal for passion and desire to ebb and flow.
when your passion is low connect to how you want to feel having attained your want or having experienced what you want to experience.
what are you passionate about?
who do you want to be? what do you want to do? what do you want to experience?
a burning desire to have what you want to have; being who you want to be, doing what you want to do, and experiencing what you want to experience.
a high energy being connected to what you want, and what’s most important to you.
the image, the vision, in your mind for what you desire.
to keep a fire burning, the fire needs to be fed. to keep enthusiasm, a burning desire for what you want, you feed your mind positive thoughts and images for what you are desiring. you feed your mind positive new ideas and knowledge from books, audios, movies, and people that connect you to what you desire. feed your mind positive stimuli to spark thinking about your desire and building and clarifying your desire in your mind.
keeping your desire in your mind everyday by thinking about, and especially growing it through action is what keeps your desire at the top of your mind and to-do list so the busyness of day-to-day life doesn’t push your desire aside and down your list to-do.
I know that if I’m not keeping my enthusiasm high, then I’m not as involved in being who I want to be, doing what I want to do and experiencing what I want to experience as much as I want to be. Affirmations, imagining and studying keep my desires in my mind and keep me growing and taking actions to live my desires, to create and live the life that I want to live.
what’s most important to you, what’s your burning desire? is what you want in your mind and at the top of your list.
what’s most important to you?
do you feel enthusiastic when you think about your desire? do you feel positive high energy?
are you expecting what you want? or are you expecting an old result from past experiences or unfulfilled wants? what are some of your natural thinking expectations you have from learned thinking habits?
it takes hard work
it takes too much time
it takes too much money
it’s only for other people, not for me
it comes with getting older
these are your paradigms, thoughts and actions that you don’t think about and just do or think, because they are part of your habitual thinking.
I am financially comfortable; my family and I have what we need, we enjoy activities, we enjoy vacations every year, I have some debts I would like to have been able to pay in total rather than monthly, we have just enough money or the right amount of money comes to us right when we need it, to get the things we judge to be most important and what we need the most.
but, I want to be financially free. I want my family and I to enjoy what we want, when we want it, I don’t want to have to plan to save because I don’t have the money for matching dressers in a bedroom, a new computer with more speed, a vacation to some place new, or attending seminars of my favorite mentors.
these are all things that we do now, but they require planning and sacrificing in other areas for us to do the thing we choose.
it’s because I’m not allowing. I have old thought habits that are guiding my expectations, not the thoughts of expecting enjoying my new desires.
these old thought habits are coming from my experiences growing up and thought habits passed to me from the people I was surrounded by growing up.
awareness to old thought habits is going to allow for the change and replacing the old thought habits with the new expectation thoughts of what you really want to experience.
to get your desired expectation, you need to change or replace your paradigm with a new one. affirmations are good to use for giving your mind your desired expectation to think about. visualizing your desired expectation and connecting to it emotionally is good to get your mind thinking about your desired expectation.
I want abundance! I want freedom! I want love! I want to live in love!
I AM love! I AM so happy and grateful! I AM abundant! I AM free! I AM happy! I AM positive! I AM being! I AM doing! I AM experiencing!
sometimes I forget to be grateful. sometimes, maybe a lot of times, I forget to trust. sometimes I forget to love. sometimes I forget to be present. sometimes I forget to think positive. sometimes I forget to visualize.
In every moment you have a choice. A choice to choose positive or to choose negative. A choice to choose moving in the direction of your goal or to choose continuing the same behaviors that are not giving you what you desire.
Life is an experience of the choices we make. The choices we make determine the life we are continually creating. We create the life we are experiencing by the choices we make.
Do you like and enjoy your life experience?
You can decide to choose a new, a different, life experience. You can choose right now in this moment that you want to change. And in the next moment you can continue to choose the new desire, and the next moment, and the next moment until you have created the habit to choose the desire over and over again and it is no longer a desire but your life experience.
In this new moment, what do you want? what do you desire?
You get to choose in this moment what you desire. If what you want is different than what you are now experiencing, you get to choose a new experience.